step up >> talking to adults

Adults can be a supportive resource if you need help or advice.
But, it might be difficult or scary to get an adult involved. Many teens feel that adults canít understand the situations theyíre facing.

If your friend is experiencing abuse, they may worry that their parents may blame or punish them for being in an abusive relationship. Itís important for your friend to decide who they want to talk to. Some things to consider:

  • Does your friend trust this adult?

  • Has your friend spoken with this adult about difficult or personal things before?

  • What does your friend need this adult to do? (For example, listen, provide comfort,
    refer to resources, help them safety plan, talk to parents, etc.)

  • How accessible is this adult? (easy to find, get time with, etc)

  • Consider all the adults you know (parents, teachers, coaches, youth ministers, youth
    officers, school counselor) before making your decision.

    After talking, your friend may not want to involve an adult. Respect your friendís decision
    and wait until theyíre ready.

    However, if you think your friend is in physical danger go ahead go ahead and involve
    an adult that you trust.
    Let your friend know that you are concerned for their physical
    safety and that you need to let someone else know what is going on.

    Also, if you need someone to talk to, you can approach an adult to talk with them about
    your experience and feelings without disclosing your friendís name or identifying details
    about their situation. Itís normal to feel stressed out and in need of support when youíre
    helping a friend, so go ahead and reach out. Consider calling our hotline (1.800.899.4000)
    if you donít want to talk to someone you know. Trained staff and volunteers can talk you or
    your friend through the situation in a confidential manner. Donít feel like you have to go
    through this alone.
    Quick Exit
    24 Hour Hotline: 1.800.899.4000