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Being in an abusive relationship can have many effects on survivors. It is normal for survivors of abuse to experience changes in their emotions, behaviors, and bodies.

Emotional
It is normal for survivors in abusive relationships to feel afraid, anxious, depressed,
suicidal, crazy, hopeless, or lonely.

Survivors may blame themselves for the abuse, feel ashamed or guilty for staying in an abusive relationship. They may worry that no one will believe them.

Behavioral
At first, behavioral changes are usually minor. A survivor may begin checking their texts multiple times a day, always meet their partner at their locker after school, or tell friends
they need to “check-in” with their partner before they make plans.

These changes may progress to canceling plans with friends and family, dropping out of extracurricular activities, or quitting their job. In order to cope with the abuse, survivors may use drugs or alcohol, cut or burn themselves, or binge and purge or starve themselves.
As the relationship continues, survivors may become more socially, physically, and emotionally isolated from friends and family members. They may give up or change their future plans (graduation, work, college) to keep their partners happy or prove their love.

Physical
Survivors of dating abuse are at risk from serious physical wounds including bruising, broken bones, and head trauma. Survivors may also suffer from stomach pains, head-
aches, or dizziness as a result of abuse.

But, there are other physical effects of abuse on survivors. Survivors may suffer from tiredness due to sleep loss. It is normal for survivors to suffer from weight loss or weight gain, physical addiction and withdrawal from drugs or alcohol, or changes in energy levels.
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